Want to improve your sex life this Valentine’s Day?

Want to improve your sex life? Getting your pelvic floor muscles stronger may just do the trick!

Valentine’s day is billed as the most romantic day of the year and many people are looking for ways to spice things up in the bedroom. Though it may seem simple, strengthening your pelvic floor muscles could be the best way to bring some extra spark into your sex life.

Where are your pelvic floor muscles and what do they do?

Both men and women have pelvic floor muscles. These muscles are located at the base of your pelvis, stretching from your pubic bone at the front to your tail bone at the back.  They have 3 main functions for women.

  1. They keep your bladder, womb and bowel in the correct position – preventing pelvic organ prolapse
  2. They tightly close your bladder and bowel openings to prevent incontinence
  3. They help with sexual function and sensation

We’re focusing on the final point 😉

So what’s the issue?

In a recent study, it was found that over 60% of women suffer with some sexual dysfunction in the first year following childbirth. This may manifest itself differently for each woman. The most common issues are a loss of libido, pain during intercourse and an inability or reduced ability to achieve an orgasm. Understandably, these are sensitive issues and few women are comfortable discussing them openly. Unfortunately, this mean that most women do not realise that these problems are so common.  Specialist physiotherapy can help, but most women do not know that this help is available.

The vaginal walls are layered with pelvic floor muscles.  Studies have found that when a woman climaxes her pelvic floor muscles elicit a strong contraction (or several contractions). Strengthening these muscles by giving them a regular work out may therefore improve your orgasms! In a recent review it was found that pelvic floor muscle exercises alone improved sexual desire, arousal, orgasm and satisfaction in the post-natal period.

It takes time to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. Like any other muscle in your body, you need to work the muscles correctly and regularly in order to strengthen them. Not only do you want stronger muscles, you also want physically bigger muscles of the pelvic floor – the aim is to get ‘ripped’ down there! It usually takes around 4 months (at a minimum) to see significant improvements.

How do I work my pelvic floor?

  • Sit or lie comfortably
  • Imagine that you are trying to stop yourself passing wind from your back passage. Now imagine you are trying to stop the stream of urine at the same time. You need to think of squeezing inside your vagina. You should feel your muscles lift up and squeeze tight.
  • Think “tailbone, pubic bone, together and lift
  • Try to contract your pelvic floor muscles when you exhale (or breathe out).

You need to practice long squeezes to build up muscle endurance and short squeezes to enable the muscles to react quickly. Ideally, you should be able to tighten, squeeze and hold pelvic floor muscles holding them for 10 seconds, repeating this 10 times in a row. You should then follow with 10 quick squeezes.

The aim is to complete this process 3 times each day. Be patient – it may take time for you to be able do this! As you improve you will notice that you can hold your squeeze for longer and do more repetitions.

In order to ensure that you achieve a ‘perfect’ contraction (or an isolated pelvic floor contraction), try to:

  1. Avoid pulling your stomach in excessively
  2. Avoid squeezing your legs together
  3. Avoid tightening your buttocks
  4. Avoid holding your breath

A feeling of gentle tightening in your lower abdomen is normal.

Can my pelvic floor get too strong?

Strength is important, YES, but so too is relaxing your pelvic floor. If you are experiencing pain during sex it may be an indication that your pelvic floor muscles are not relaxing properly (known as pelvic floor over-activity).  If this is the case, try to practice some relaxed breathing regularly during the day (and before intercourse) to see if this helps with your pain.

Thanks for the information. So what’s next?

So, let’s say that you are aiming to get strong down there……. But how do you know if you are contracting your pelvic floor muscles correctly? And on the flip-side, how do you know if you are able to relax them?

Unfortunately, research has found that only half of women contract their pelvic floor muscles correctly.  You can try to check your own pelvic floor contraction by inserting your finger into your vagina.  You should be able to feel the vaginal walls gently tighten around your finger when you exercise your muscles. Alternatively, ask your partner if they can feel your vagina tighten during sex when you contract your pelvic floor muscles. You should also be able to fully ‘let go’ of your pelvic floor contraction. This is important as it ensures that your pelvic floor muscles can fully relax.

If you are unsure, an assessment with a Specialist Women’s Health Physiotherapist will tell you if you are doing the right thing, and if you are not, how this can be corrected. Your physiotherapist can also give you a progressive exercise programme to help you build up (or relax) your pelvic floor muscles in the best possible way.

…for now, Happy Valentine’s Day to all you lovely ladies and happy squeezing! 😃

Mummy MOT

Are we failing to care for mums?

Inspired by a rare chance to lie on the sofa full of turkey, chocolate and vino, it feels like a good time to write my first ever blog. How exciting!

My three beautiful boys – aged 2, 4 and 5 – are currently wrestling on the carpet. This is standard behaviour for these three. I have just said “Somebody is going to get hurt…” for the 90th time today. They ignore me (as usual) and continue to wrestle.

Anyway…I can’t believe that I grew these boys inside my body. It really is unbelievable when you think about it. My uterus has grown to the size of a watermelon three times to house these boys. Yes…I know, women are ‘made’ to give birth. After all, each of us has a vagina, a uterus, ovaries blah blah blah.

Do our bodies bounce back after having a baby? Erm…NO! Firstly, you grow a seed, which turns into an apple, which turns into a grapefruit, which eventually turns into watermelon.  You then either push that watermelon out of your vagina (usually tearing it in the process) or have it cut out of your tummy via a huge incision through your abdominal muscles. What planet are we on if we think our bodies will just bounce back to normal (especially if we do it more than once)?

In short, women need guidance and rehabilitation following pregnancy and childbirth. This happens in France as standard for every new mother, but not in the UK. After a traumatic knee injury or surgery, you would expect physiotherapy to help you to regain movement, strength and normal function. Why not following childbirth? It’s pretty mind boggling.

I have pondered this over the years working as a Specialist Women’s Health Physiotherapist in the NHS. Very simply, I think it comes down to three main reasons:

  1. Women have been giving birth ‘since the dawn of time’. We are under the impression that our bodies are built to do it and to cope with the after effects.
  2. The impact of pregnancy and childbirth on the mother is (much to my frustration) rarely discussed and quickly forgotten. Our beautiful babies receive all of the care and attention.
  3. Healthcare professionals do not tackle and often normalise postnatal problems such as leaking. This in turn leads to women accepting these problems as normal and something they just have to live with.

Here are the stats…

A huge 50% of women who have had children will have some degree of pelvic organ prolapse (Hagen & Stark 2011).  Some women may not even know they have one.

In one study, the prevalence of incontinence and intravaginal prolapse was 42% in women with one or more vaginal deliveries as opposed to 35% in women who had a C-section delivery (Sakala 2006).  From this we can conclude that having a C-section reduces the chances of having pelvic floor problems, but in no way eliminates them.

It has been found that the gap between the rectus abdominus muscle does not change without intervention 8 weeks after childbirth (Coldron 2008).

So why see a physiotherapist…

A women’s health physiotherapist is the only healthcare professional out there who can accurately assess and retrain pelvic floor muscles. At the same time, they can also assess and retrain breathing, posture and the abdominal muscles.

When you start to train a muscle (or a group of muscles), any strength gains you make during the first few weeks are mostly due to simply learning how to actually contract the muscle you are exercising/recruiting. It is only after a few weeks / months of sustained training do your muscle cells start to get bigger, a process called “hypertrophy” (Jones et al 1989).

Retraining muscles after injury is essential as inhibited muscle does not automatically reactivate and retrain. In other words, if you don’t retrain damaged muscles the chances are they won’t do it themselves.

All of this leads me onto my soapbox……

I believe that EVERY single woman that has had a baby should have an assessment with a Specialist Women’s Health Physiotherapist. Are we failing to care for mums? Absolutely.

My mission at Female Focus is to change this. I am a qualified Mummy MOT Practitioner.  This means that I can offer a specialist postnatal examination for women following both vaginal and caesarean deliveries. A Mummy MOT will assess how your posture, pelvic floor muscles and stomach muscles are recovering after birth. And if they’re not, you can be provided with exercises and treatment to help you in your recovery. It is never too late to have a Mummy MOT and rebuild your foundations, whether you had your baby 6 weeks ago or 40 years ago.

Hope to see all you mums soon. For now, Happy New Year! Time to get back to our beautiful children.